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    To my ladies out there:
    Self love is the greatest medicine


    Self-love has often been seen as a moral flaw, akin to vanity and selfishness. The Merriam-Webster dictionary later describes self-love as to "love of self" or "regard for one's own happiness or advantage". Synonyms concept to amour propre, conceit, conceitedness, egotism, and many more. 

    I think self-love is the emotion that every and each one of us need to have in us. Marcus Tullius Cicero said that those who were sui amantes sine rivali  (lovers of themselves without rivals) were doomed to end in failure. It is not easy for everyone to master self love but if we keep trying and never give up im pretty sure we will win because I believe that there something great awaits for those who never gives up.

    In order to love someone or to spread love, learn to love ourself first is the first step. As a woman, seeing another woman with better figure and nice dressing that we often indicate it as "beautiful" or "perfect" can easily bring our self-esteem down but then if we just stop comparing ourselves to others there will be no labelled such as "hideous, imperfect or ugly" Because best believe that each one of us has our own kind of beauty.

    And ladies please don't be too harsh on another ladies 😊
    When self love adds up to ourselves admiring someone's beauty without questioning your own is no longer a problem.

    In 2008 the American Association of Suicidology conducted a study on the impact of low self esteem and lack of self love and its relation to suicidal tendencies and attempts. The conclusion from the research was "depression, hopelessness, and low-self esteem are implications of vulnerability factors for suicide ideation" And it is proven when the association recorded there have been 44, 193 suicides in 2015 and 5, 491 of them are youth aged between 15-24 years old.

    Based on the research lack of self love or low self esteem could leads to suicide. When you are in depression, hopelessness or anything that can leads to self destruction, don't be ashamed or scared of it. Go seek help and try to learn more of loving yourselves instead of judging or blaming yourselves. Do not let the negativity take control of you because there is still a lot more of adventure waiting for you out there and suicide is not the solutions.

    Ahh.. When you conqure the true meaning of self-love everything that turn you down is just a minor distraction that does not deserve your attention. Don't worry its not hard of learning to love yourselves first, some people been there and they come out survived and happy till now. You just need to toughen up 😉💖




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    My 3 Lesson in uni so far


       

    Currently Im in my final year of doing Bsc of Science in Architectural Studies at Limkokwing University of Creative Technology. Will be graduating this July 😊 so yeah looking forward to it. So here the things that I've learned so far throughout my uni life. And I hope you'll enjoy reading it and thank you very much for the love and support from my last post. I appreciate it so much 💕 

    You Are So Much Stronger Than You Think
    Sometimes there were moment where you have to met rejection, disapproval and disappointment, and it stings and sucks but where you are right now is the prove that you are stronger than you think because what hurts you or disappoint you before is it still affecting you today? Probably not, so acknowledge that. 💛

    Be Your Biggest Cheerleader 
    Know your worth! There is a level of confidence and pride in who I am and what I am capable of that I have acquired in college. It is so important to completely believe in yourself because that is what helps you overcome rejection, disappointment and heartbroken 🌚

    Keep a small circle
    I can say the biggest things I've learned in uni so far is this. To always keep a small supportive circle around you. What has helped me become my biggest cheerleader, is to find amazing uplifting friends who believed in me. Most of my friends are very supportive and always there when you need them and Im thankful of having you guys 💞💞 If any of you guys reading this hmmm you know yourself...

    Despite how tiring my uni days have been, all those sleepless night. I can say I have grown so much. I am excited and scared at the same time to embark on the next stage of my life after my graduation this coming July 🎓
    Theres is still so much things to learn, but I feel like I am on the right path.
    I hope everyone will have a great day and don't let small stupid things bring you down! 💃

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    60 days Of Happiness


    Photo by my talented friend. Go follow him on instagram @z3rography.

    Hi guys, I've not posted for awhile and today is exactly 60 days of me not posting anything. So this post is about me creating happiness in the past 2 months and avoiding all negativity that can bring me down. Kind of similar to my previous post, you can read it here " Finding Joy in Misery".

    Basically what I did was I made myself as happy as I could even though it has to cost me so much. Like Im not going to stop myself from doing or wanting something even though if its only for temporary happiness and I know I will regret soon but listen the focus here is happiness. So when one happiness ends you keep creating another happiness to continue the happiness. Theres was this day where I bought a whole cake for myself that Im pretty sure that Im not going to finished it by myself and it will only end up in the garbage bin but what I did is instead of regretting buying that cake I invite my friends over to have cake with me. So you see here the happiness continue. 💞

    But sometimes even in happiness theres sadness and pain too. The other day I was doing grocery shopping with my friends we were having so much fun and happy but then inside there is sadness because I know soon after we all graduated we will be separated going with our own path and might not even see each other again. The only things that makes it better is to just cherish the moments we have now. 😌👭

    And sometimes it happen when you trying to make someone happy and they say no to you and you got rejected and sometimes not even appreciated for the effort you did for them. Im not saying we should get credits for every goodness we did but a simple "Thank you!" or even a smile is more than enough right. 😊

    One time in class we were having a group presentation and we did it so well I felt so proud of myself and my group member and happy and for a second I was even telling myself that we are the best and meh! the other group can't beat our group. That moment arrogance is taking over of myself 😖
    But when I reach home and think of it again I feel ashamed of myself for feeling that way. It is not happiness that is actually sadness and hate that we often recognise it as happiness because we feel great by turning others down 😞

    What I've learnt is that happiness is not about how much money you have or how great you are but is about the size of our heart. 💓

    Finding happiness is like when we were rushing to go out of our house we tends to forget things. Then you will come back inside looking for it and sometimes even make a mess but then you realised its actually right there or even sometimes in your hand. And its funny that our experience of happiness is so similar to this. We run around trying to find it in absolutely every place. But actually when we come back home we find out that it's within.

    Jim Carrey said " I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that it's not the answer." He mean by whatever we are searching for is not out there but it is inside. Therefore happiness is actually an inside job 😄
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    Finding Joy in Misery



    否极泰来 (pǐ jí tài lái) is a Chinese saying that roughly translated as "out of the depth of misfortune comes bliss" or "the good emerges when the evil has reached his extreme." Which in essence isn't that different from some of the English sayings like "after rain there's a rainbow."


    Im writing it is because lately I have learn a lot of meaning in it. It's something I tell myself whenever things are not going well. It is a continuous reminder that most things in life have a cyclical pattern. That a low is followed by a high, and that a high is often followed by a low.


    So what will happen is whenever Im going through times of despair or misery, instead of ignoring the pain, I own it. Just fully acknowledge that you are feeling shitty and give yourself the right to feel that way. After all human is human, we are not machine but a human being that is capable of feeling a wide range of emotions - the good and the bad.


    But at the same time,I always remind myself that its all cyclical and that whatever is gonna happen next, probably its gonna be better than what I am experiencing now. So while I am embracing my pain, theres also sparks of excitement in me for what is going to come next. Chances are that in a few days from now, I know I will definitely smile again and be happy.


    Anticipating what is going to come next helps to put the pain I am feeling now into perspective and mitigate it. Shifts my mental energy into an area of forward-looking anticipation and hope. Sure, Im going through some tough shit, but hey, a lot of amazing things are soon going to crash into my life and that's kinda exciting.


    And sadly 😞 is when someone starts to think reversely. Meaning that when one goes through times of happiness, instead of being present in that moment but start worrying about whatever bad thing might happen next - merely on basis of the cyclical pattern of life. 


    Basically allowing worry to be the thief of joy ummmm... 💔


    However, I certainly hope it has a different effect. That one appreciates good times more because chances are those times won't last forever.


    We all might be familiar with that saying, but I doubt we all are capable to stare into misery and defy it with a smile and a sense of excitement for all the good things that are going to follow. But that's exactly the way I hope to deal with my own moments of misery going forward. 😊💓
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    to women who tear down other women:




    Why do we seek to bring down other women, knowing how hard life can be for a woman? Rudeness is a weak person's imitation of self-respect and strength. Plus it is not attractive at all. 😶

    I believe that jealousy and envy play important roles in tearing each other down. These feelings can come from seeing other women who are confident in their bodies, their relationship with men, their career and their lives. You may be pretty and you may be talented, but nobody will remember that if you're mean.

    These feelings are also caused by unequal abilities in every women. But we each have our strengths and weaknesses right? And most often, people are not as good at things as they may seem. Everyone looks better on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat 😌 , and at church on Sundays.

    To women who tear down other women, putting other women down is showing the world that you are more concerned with hurting others that you are about your own progress. By doing so does not increase any value in yourself. A woman who knows her worth doesn't measure herself against other women, but stands strong, calm and self-confident. An empowered women empower women, kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless and when women support each other, incredible things happen!

    Plus a negative mind will never give you a positive life, nobody has ever made themselves greater by showing how small someone is. Be someone who makes everybody feel like a somebody! And Classy is a when a woman who knows WHAT to say, WHEN to say it, and WHEN to stop and certainly not by tearing others down.

    Every woman is more than what you see. We all have our own beauty in us. 😊 💜
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